More Christian hot air, or tears for the world?

Fearful Christianity has alienated itself from the mission of Christ's love

Fruitless quarrels vs Love from a pure heart
What do I mean by “fearful” Christianity? Maybe the term “reactionary” is more suited to this type of Christian, who is better known to the world as the “fundamentalist” Christian. This is the guy who is getting himself into a quarrel with the world about values that the world does not understand, values of which he only has some dim notions himself. God warns us to steer clear of fruitless quarrel in 1Tim. 1:

5 But the goal of our instruction is love from a pure heart and a good conscience and sincere faith. 6 For some men, straying from these things, have turned aside to fruitless discussion, 7 wanting to be teachers of the Law, even though they do not understand either what they are saying or the matters about which they make confident assertions.

This person is casting pearls (his “Christian” beliefs) in front of swine (people who cannot comprehend or rightly condone these beliefs) and is being devoured by these “unbelievers.” I put “Christian” in quotes here because very often these beliefs are, in the final analysis of God’s all-encompassing love, not altogether Christian.

What about the “love from a pure heart” as seen in the above verse? William Miller in A Christian’s Response to Islam tells of encountering a Muslim cleric named Abbas in the town of Damghan who had become Christian. Abbas had gone to the local missionary to browbeat him with arguments to prove the superiority of Islam. The poor missionary, a Mr Wilson, was defeated at every turn with clever arguments from Abbas. According to Abbas, “I felt I had overcome him, and I felt very proud of myself. Then that man of God felt so sorry for me in my unbelief and pride that he began to weep.” So moved by the missionary’s tears for Abbas’ unbelief and pride, the Muslim cleric was converted.

Two issues here:
a) What are we doing, trying to use words and fruitless arguments to try and win the world to Christ? How about loving actions and living examples?
b) When we are trying to convert non-Christians, whose agenda are we following? The one that demands more bums on the seats of our emptying and increasingly irrelevant churches, or that of Christ who is weeping for the lost? I’m not talking about the pat clichés of the “Jesus loves you” ilk, but genuine, heartfelt “love from a pure heart,” tears of grief and frustration at a people obstinately blind to the great gift that is being offered to them.